Jailed for the Crime of Loving My Children?

Dear readers of The Frank Report, please forgive my self-indulgence, but I write this brief note mainly in my capacity as editor to let you know what may be about to occur.

As many of you will know I am currently fighting the divorce from hell, having had my children taken away from me. This afternoon I shall be in court, likely for the last time.

I have covered this case in more detail previously, first when it kicked off in the summer of last year, and more recently over Christmas when the children were removed from my care.

Today’s hearing will likely decide my family’s future, because of the systematic failures of every authority involved.

To give a very brief summary, temporary custody was awarded in December at the 11th hour, without warning, consultation or explanation. Today’s court date was postponed for three weeks (again at the last minute),

which has given my ex-wife the opportunity to do the following:

• Further alienate my children, to the point where they refuse to show any emotion (unless they are alone with me)

• Block access to them (phone calls, video calls, meetings etc)

• Refuse to allow them to stay over with me

• Refuse to give me their address

• Destroy my photographs with them

As a result, I have seen my children for the grand total of 15 hours in 2025 – that’s 1% of the time! This cannot and will not be allowed to continue.

Two things are going to happen this afternoon:

A) The judge if going to do her job. I am not expecting her to award me custody, but at the very least she must insist that these practises are stopped immediately, with failure to do so resulting in the loss of custody and serious punishment.

B) Like the police, and the social services, and the social services child abuse team, and the police internal affairs, she will neglect her duty.

In the event of ‘B’, I will object in the strongest terms. If they attempt to silence me then WWIII is likely to commence. Or, they will hear me – in which case, this is the speech I will give:

Your Honour, I may be guilty of many things, but the one thing I cannot be accused of is not loving nor prioritising my children.

For years I remained in an unhappy marriage at considerable cost to my health, in order to protect them from the horrors of divorce.

When my wife took the choice out of my hands and insisted on a breakup, she was offered 50% of the family assets if I could see the children just one day per week. She refused. She was then offered 100% of everything, full access to the children and no requirement to pay if the children could live with me. Again, she refused.

This court is painfully aware of my wife’s behaviour: repeated (possibly staged) suicide attempts to control me, alienation of my children, and the systematic blocking of access to them.

Since July 2024, I have appealed to every authority charged with child protection: the police, the social services and now the judiciary. All of you have been at best negligent, and at worst corrupt.

Despite the irrefutable proof of my ex-wife’s lies, child abuse, and the breaking of every rule you promised to enforce, like her, you refuse to uphold the law.

Thanks to this court, my children have been placed in the custody of a dangerous, vindictive narcissist. Thanks to this court, I have seen my children for a grand total of 15 hours in 2025 – that’s just 1% of the time. Thanks to this court, my children are still being abused. Thanks to this court, my children are still in danger.

I would remind the court of a few things:

• The worst outcomes for children are in single parent families with mothers, not fathers

• Parental alienation is a jailable offence in many countries

• Male suicide rates are four times higher than female at the best of times; for men separated from their children, this increases to ten times

Without my children, there is no reason for me to live. Must I become another statistic to have my voice heard?

I came to this court today with the hope that you would give me justice; your refusal is the end of the road for me. While the lives of my children are treated with such utter contempt, I shall not comply with you, communicate with you, or obey your rules in any way. If you jail me, I will go on hunger strike. And if anything bad happens to my children as a consequence, I will hold the people in this room responsible.

My children are not the property of the State, and I will do anything necessary to protect them.

Neither knowing (nor caring) anything about the law, I would assume this could more than easily be construed as contempt of court. So be it.

Hopefully I am being melodramatic, and none of this will occur.

If however there is radio silence from TNC after today, then you know what has happened.

 

I wish every one of you the very best, and hope to reassume the editor’s seat very soon.

Frank Haviland